A
journalist once asked me what I considered to be one of the
biggest regrets of my many years of ministry. Without hesitation, I
answered, "Not teaching the people I pastored how to honor their father in
the ministry." The fact is, back then I did not know to.
"A son honors his father, and a servant his master: if then I be a
father, where is My honor? And if I be a master, where is My fear? Says the
Lord of hosts unto you, O, priests..." (Malachi 1:6).
I
could list the names of many great men of God who I have known in my lifetime
who were never shown honor in their later years of ministry.
Some of them gave up the time that they should been using to nurture their own
families, to try to keep other people's lives and families from falling
apart. How many miles did they drive to visit a hospital and pray for the
sick and the dying or to visit someone who needed to be encouraged and lifted
up? Furthermore, what about the countless calls at any hour of the day or night
from frightened or despondent saints?
The
apostle Paul was a ministry father to a Lycaenian youth, Timothy. To the
church at Corinth he wrote, "I am sending to you Timothy, my son
whom I love, who is faithful in the Lord. He will remind you of my way of
life in Christ Jesus, which agrees with what I teach everywhere in every
church" (1 Cor. 4:17, emphasis added).
"This order I give to you, Timothy, my son..." (1 Tim. 1:18, emphasis added).
Many
of us today just go "church shopping" and when we find one that we
think we like, we will assimilate ourselves with that gathering and begin
throwing our tithe into the offering plate or bucket, thinking that is what God
requires of us. Notwithstanding, if relationship has not been established
in the Spirit, as much as the church can probably use our money, we are, for
the most part, just throwing it on to unproven ground. And then, we wonder why
we do not prosper or reap a harvest! I was raised on a farm and if I
learned anything, it is that scattered seed does not bring harvest. Those who
come into spiritual maturity will cease jumping from pillar to
post! They will submit to an apostolic ministry (apostle,
prophet, evangelist, pastor or teacher) to whom they graciously and consistently
give to of their prayers, their encouragement, their blessing and
honor with their giving!
I
have always tithed up to my father in ministry. Years
ago, when I pastored board-governed churches, I was occasionally
"called on the carpet" by the deacons as to why I did not
tithe back into the church. I replied, "Because it is not
scriptural. It is ridiculous to begin with, when you stop and think about it. I
draw a salary from the church, of which a large portion of it comes from the
tithes of the congregation. Then, I turn around and give it back? That
is not tithing; it is recycling! It is like taking your money out
of one pocket and putting it into another pocket."
The
direction of our giving is always up,
not down. The Bible says of Abraham
that he "gave a tenth part of all" to Melchizedek (Heb. 7:2), and hence "the lesser was blessed by the greater "(Heb. 7:2, 7, NAS). The tithe must always go up so the connection can be made all the way to the head!
When the oil was poured out on Aaron, it was poured on his head so it could flow
all the way down to the skirts of the garment, a type of the church (see Psalm
133). Leaving fathers out leaves a disconnection.
In
almost every society, save for the attitude in a substructure of the American
mindset, the modus operandi is that
our parents nurtured us when we were young, and in honor, the children take care
of their parents when they can no longer adequately care for themselves. The
key to all spiritual revelation is first, the natural, then the
spiritual. Pause here to reflect a moment. How many men and women of God
have given their lives for the gospel, raised up churches, raised up sons in
ministry, and now are languishing in dishonor and even poverty? How many men
and women of God are still desperately trying to hold on and serve in pulpits
and ministry places and continue because they have no means of income or
support? Now that the “winter” of their lives is here, their only means of
livelihood is derived from their ability to continue to minister and attempt to
survive on the meager hand-outs or token offerings that someone will give them.
Their “Timothy’s” (sons in ministry) should be bringing cloaks to clothe
them.
In
his classic book, You Have Not Many Fathers, Dr.
Mark Hanby writes, “There is a terrible breach in the household of God. Fathers
in ministry have not been given proper honor. They poured out their lives, but
are receiving little or nothing back. A son is to pour water on the hands of
his ministry father before he is ever separate from him (2 Kings 3:11b). The
imperative today is to bridge the generation gap between father and son in
ministry. If not, the Lord promised to send a curse on the earth.” The curse is
already here, which is why thousands of our pulpits are occupied by powerless
preachers who are little more than motivational speakers. However, there is no
real sovereign move of God anymore.
A
popular praise and worship song begins with the words, "These are the days
of Elijah, declaring the word of the Lord..." Apocalyptic analysts and
so-called prophetic gurus, who have everyone expecting a literal return of the
prophet Elijah, miss the whole point. The "spirit" of Elijah, a
father in ministry to Elisha (2 Kings 2: 12) calls for restoration of that
spiritual relationship between fathers and sons. Only when that is
restored, will we again see and experience the power of Elijah's God in the
earth!
If
we have a father in the ministry, where is his honor? Is it being held in
escrow, until full inheritance is received on "the other side," in
heaven? Or are we refusing to honor where honor is due?
Almost
everyone in my generation has heard the name, H. C. Noah. Brother Noah
pastored Oak Cliff Assembly of God in Dallas, Texas for more than three decades. This
great man of God was a dynamic force for the gospel and was a faithful servant
to the Lord throughout his ministry, during the good times and the bad. I
recall on one occasion, witnessing hundreds of people receive the baptism of
the Holy Spirit in a single service!
Years
later, when he could no longer pastor, he was placed in a nursing home about a
half a mile from where I live today. It was sad to see the emaciation that the
years had levied upon his small frame. I recall us seeing him one time in a
local Mexican restaurant. He was in a wheel chair. My wife walked up to
him and told him what a great impact he had made in her life and how favored
and blessed of God multitudes had been to have known him.
His
was so kind and graciously accepted her comments. As she walked away,
some of his family members who sat at the table with him were overheard to say,
“Who was that person? Do you know that person?” As Caroline walked away, she
said to me, “It doesn’t matter if anybody knows who I am. It only matters that
people remember who he is.”
I would
see him from time to time, sitting alone in that wheel chair and think, “This
is all wrong! It shouldn’t be ending like this! Where are the crowds who
once clambered for his time? Where are the sheep that looked for his nurturing?
He is now left alone to finish out his days upon this earth, trying desperately
to grasp onto the dignity that he once had.”
We
must follow the order of God in carrying the burden of ministry. Fathers cannot
carry the burden alone. If spiritual sons will honor their spiritual fathers in
ministry, we can restore the breach in the house of God.